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Wednesday, September 29, 2010

How Much is Too Much?



My daughter is a social butterfly! It isn't too surprising seeing that her father is the exact same way. She LOVES to get involved and do things. Currently she is on a sports team {hopefully to end in the next two weeks} and the Future Business Leaders of America club at her school AND she goes to youth group. Not only does she have extra-curricular things, she is in the advanced classes at school. {Advanced means more work.} For the last four weeks they have been doing a project where they had to create a business and sell the product. The product she chose was cookies.

{Can you guess what we are doing tonight?}

When she is not doing something sport, school, or church related she likes to have sleepovers.

She is bright, ambitious, loving, and full of energy…but Mom is not {full of energy, that is}! I am sooooo grateful that she has the ability to organize and succeed in all her activities, but I am finding it all very wearing on me. I try soooo hard to get organized so that she is able to do the things she needs, but I also have another child in sports and a toddler. My only day off during the week where we have NOTHING planned is on Mondays {sure makes for long weekends}.

Now you'd think with my little rant I'm a single parent, but I'm not. The rub is that my wonderful, darling hubby is just as involved in activities as she is. I find it comical when he gets frustrated with all her activities. I finally had to point to him one day that he was getting huffy because it was interfering with his social schedule.
Looking back during that stage-of-life I did do a sport, but that was all. I went to a small private school that didn't offer a lot of club activities. I didn't do sleepovers because my parents were HIGHLY overprotective and did not trust too many people. They also worked a LOT and I had to be home helping with the chores and with my brother.

Did I resent it?

Yes, many times. I remember my 7th grade year being the most depressing period of my life. I do not want any of that for her, but I want her to be able to balance her choices.

We have been working on figuring out what she enjoys most and what she can leave behind. So I wonder how much is too much? Is it when it's too much for the parent or the child?

2 comments:

  1. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!

    Here is my daughter a total genius yet has totally taken a break from the social life. I don't get it. I wonder if she's depressed, afraid, lazy, or just plain content and totally happy with things more calm.
    We were also apart of the RAT RACE. It was horrible...with two of them in sports, dance, cheer, band, two business activly running, and BOTH working full-time out of the house. Our son was being carted around here and there. It was pretty much hell in a handbag for me. Personally. We all did it, and I often wondered if she was doing it all for her or US. This year she made these decisions for herself and now we're pushing her to become involved again........are we asking for HELL?

    O man, I need the handbook....lol

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  2. Totally agree!!! A handbook would be handy.

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